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Published 16:32 16 Apr 2026 GMT
An expert has recently debunked myths that female ejaculation is simply urine and shared tips on how to experience it.
Female ejaculate is a clear fluid produced by the Skene’s glands, small structures located around the urethra in women, often described as the “female prostate.”
Not every woman will be able to “squirt”; in fact, one study found that only 10 to 54 percent of women have experienced physical ejaculation.
However, there are ways to encourage and stimulate ejaculation; different positions, strokes or toys could make your chances of ejaculation higher.
A 2023 study suggests 40% of adult women report ever having physically ejaculated during sex, most of them experiencing the phenomenon for the first time in their mid-20s.
Dr Nan Wise, a cognitive neuroscientist and sex therapist, has shared her top tips on how to learn to ejaculate.
In preparation, it might be wise to get a sex blanket, perhaps an old throw or towel you don’t mind getting dirty.
Find a position you feel comfortable in. For a lot of people, this is lying on your back and spreading your legs open, which is a good place to start, as whether attempting ejaculation alone or with the help of someone else, this offers easy access to your G-spot.
The next step is to find your G-spot and apply ample pressure to it. Ejaculation or “squirting” as it is frequently known, is initiated by stimulation of the erogenous zone.
The area is typically located a few inches into the vagina on the anterior (stomach side) wall.
The expert also recommends applying pressure with your chosen instrument “with vigorous, repetitive” motions, and to try to clench your pelvic floor muscles.
Taking deep breaths, relaxing your muscles, and allowing your body to relax are more likely to help you achieve ejaculation than being tense.
The piece of advice Dr Wise concludes with is to try not to get too worked up about the process and let yourself enjoy the experience as a potential new form of pleasure.
“We know more about the surface of Mars than we do about what’s really going on in women’s bodies,” she says.
